I’m on the phone with a friend of mine and she’s totally wigging out and I’m trying to help her but she’s making all these excuses for her life.
She’ll complain about the hours she works at her job, and I’ll say, “Why don’t you do something about that”. She says, well it’s not that bad, I only have to work these hours a few times per month.
She’ll complain about how her co-workers won’t do their job and all the work falls on her… So, I’ll ask, “Why don’t you do something about that?”
She replies, “Well, I don’t want to get anyone in trouble and I don’t mind doing the extra work”
We aren’t kids anymore and we don’t have the luxury of ‘mommy or daddy’ coming to fix stuff for us. We have to take responsibility for what’s going in our lives, but the first step is to do an accurate assessment of your situation by ‘admitting’ the truth about it.
Clearly, she has a problems with these things because she brings them up over and over and over and over in our conversations about how stressful and annoying her job is.
But when I say something like, “you should look at finding another job…” or “maybe you should talk to your manager about the things that are frustrating you…” She’s jumps back at me and says, “Oh it’s not that important…just drop it!”
Here’s my point: Things usually don’t change unless we cause change to happen.
We won’t cause change unless we can clearly see that change is necessary. As the old saying goes, if it ain’t broke – don’t fix it. Well if you ‘think’ your life isn’t ‘broke’, you won’t put forth the effort to fix it.
- If you’re broke (finances)…admit it and do something about it
- If you’re fat…admit it and do something about it
- If your job is horrible…admit it and do something about it
- If your relationship status isn’t where you want it to be…admit it and do something about it
- If your life sucks…admit it and do something about it
Okay, can I be blunt here? If there’s a problem in your life, either do something about it or shut-up complaining.
Not to sound, mean, it’s really about taking responsibility for your life. The first step of that is to stop making excuses for things and being honest with yourself. This way you can accurately determine what you need or want to change so you can do something about it.
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