Typically, when I meet people for the first time (and thereafter) I give them a hug versus shaking their hands. Even if it’s that “manly” half-hug where you bump opposite shoulders for a half a second 🙂
I do this in my personal life and business interactions – men and women.
Usually people are ‘okay’ with it, but about 1 out of 10 people will be visibly “uncomfortable” or “weirded-out” by it.
Recently, someone asked me about this.. They asked me why I hugged everyone and if it had a negative impact with the people I’ve met.
I said, “I didn’t know.”
She seemed to be shocked by my response.
So she asked my I didn’t know.
I said, “Because I don’t care.”
She asked “why?”
My philosophy is: if people are “freaked-out” by my hugging them, they probably aren’t the people I want in my life.
She went into the diatribe about how I should be more aware of people’s feelings yadda, yadda, yadda…
I UNDERSTOOD what she was saying, but didn’t really agree…
So she asks, “So what if Richard Branson or some other billionaire wanted to meet you but were uncomfortable with you hugging them, you’d miss out on what they had to offer….”
I smiled and said, “You’re right.”
So, I’m posing a few questions to my readers:
Is it weird to hug people that you don’t know…and what do you think about the idea of ‘not caring’ if people are freaked out about hugs??
Do you think it’s worth it to stop hugging people for the sake of “what they could offer you?”