Are you doin’ the “but?”
It’s really a interesting question to ask with powerful implications.
Put another way, what are the things you want in your life that ‘big buts’ are getting in the way of?
What things do you say and follow up with a but in your sentence?
We’ll say things like:
- I want a happy relationship…but, I don’t know if I’ll find a person that I really like…or if they’ll like me.
- I want to have a lot of money…but, I’ve never made a lot of money – I don’t know how to make a lot of money.
- I want to have a big house…but I don’t know if I can afford it or how I would maintain it.
- I want to go after my dreams…but I don’t want to set myself up for failure.
- I want to be happy…but I need to focus on getting this ‘stuff’ done first (here’s a subconscious ‘but’ about happiness, – but I don’t know what makes me happy.)
“Buts” get in the way of the Universe bringing us the things we say we want. Because what you’re doing is subconsciously telling yourself you can’t have or (don’t want) this thing.
In almost all cases, buts psychologically negate your thoughts, your statements, your wants.
They tell your subconscious, “Even though I said I want this thing…I really don’t believe I can have it or to some degree, you’re saying I really don’t want it.”
So imagine going to a restaurant and the waiter asks to take your order, then you say, “I want the Eggplant Parmesan, but I really don’t want it.”
How would he be able to serve you…because he wouldn’t know what you wanted and couldn’t bring you anything. That’s the exact same thing we do when we ask the Universe for the things we want. We ask, then immediately tell the Universe that we DON’T want it.
This is why we get so confused about ‘manifesting’ our reality. We think we’re asking for stuff, and when it doesn’t come, then we get confused.
Even if the ‘but is’ a verbal but, the feeling we have bout our desires can be even more dis-empowering than verbally saying it. So if you’re asking for things, but you FEEL that you can’t afford it or cant have it, the feeling is just as powerful in dismantling your desires.
This also happens when we keep changing our minds about what we want. Again with the restaurant example, imagine placing your order like this, “Yes, I’ll have the Eggplant Parmesan…no I’ll have the Veggie Burger…no, give me the Eggplant Parmesan.” Again, the waiter wouldn’t know what you wanted…and you’d end up with nothing.
So there are two main points here.
First, you have to “kick your buts”. When you catch yourself saying it, just stop and recognize what your mis-creating. Think about the statement you just dismantled with your but. My goal is to just stop using the word altogether.
Secondly, it’s critically important to be very clear on what you want. I think this is one of the biggest reasons why we don’t get what we ‘want’…because on a subconscious level, we don’t know what we want. And if we don’t know what we want, how is the Universe supposed to?
KICK YOUR BUTS!!