Have you ever asked yourself why you hang out with the people you do?
Many people continue to hang around the same people day after day, week after week, and year after year…by default. They never stop and take an “inventory” of the people around them. Things like: whether the people around them are “positive” and adding to their lives or detracting from their lives.
This is a critical part of growth. My dad taught me, “if you want to keep getting what you’re getting, keep doing what you’re doing.” This goes for your friends as well. In his book, “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” Robert Kiyosaki says, “…your income is usually the average the 5 closest people to you…” I think this goes for EVERY aspect of your life.
Why You Have the Friends That You Do
The Law of Attraction is the reason that you continually attract the same people into your life. Contrary to what you might believe, the people that you have met up until now were not introduced to you by chance. You have been attracting them to you for one reason or another.
If you have continually been making friends with successful, happy, beautiful people, then it’s because that’s what you’ve been putting out. If the people around you are struggling and living miserable lives, it’s because you’re vibrating on that level and those people tend to migrate towards you.
We’ve all heard the axiom, “Misery loves company” but I think this is a one-sided illustration of the more appropriate phrase “Birds of a feather flock together” – The reason why I think this is because “success loves company just as well.” That’s why successful people attract other successful people.
Attract the Right Friends
In order to bring the people into your life that you want surrounding you, you will have to be proactive. There are two main things you want to do:
First, you’ll need to change who you are to change who you attract. Secondly, you may want to go actively seek out the people you want to attract.
Attracting a “New Crowd”
As I mentioned success loans company just as he does… but don’t allow this to discourage you in thinking that have to become successful before you will start attracting successful people. One thing you want to do is to start thinking more successfully and speaking about success. This will start shifting your vibrations to a higher level and start attracting a higher caliber of person.
You cannot sit idly by and wait for the perfect group of friends to fall in your lap. Here is something that you can try in order to start attracting the right people into your life.
Proactively Attracting The Right People
Imagine what your perfect group of friends would be like. Imagine the kinds of things that they like and do. Imagine hanging out with these friends and having a great time.
Once you have identified some common traits of these friends, write them down.
Review your list and make sure that you have included all of the individual traits that a good friend would have.
Spend some time looking over your list everyday. Rewrite these traits on regular basis and think about your perfect friends.
Before long, you will notice that the people that you are introduced to share some of these traits that you have been writing down. Finding the absolute perfect friend might be difficult at first. However, you will slowly start to meet new people that share the same ideals and traits as you do.
You need to make a habit of thinking about the people that you would like to associate with. If you continually think about the bad things that are present in your life, you will continue to attract more of the same type of people into your life.
This does not mean that you have to completely forget about your negative friends that you currently associate with. Just start focusing on the life you want and the people to support it will show up.
Identify the 5 closest people to you (not just friends and familiy, but the people you spend the most time with)
Ask, “Are these people adding to my life or taking away from it?”
If you feel it’s necessary, take action by spending more time with those you feel are adding to your life and less with those who aren’t