We’ve all heard the age old adage “The truth hurts…”
Well, I’m here to tell you that the “truth” NEVER hurts…the truth only heals.
There are only two circumstances where the truth “appears” to hurt:
1) Not accepting of the truth for what it is.
2) Your conversation about the truth.
Here’s an example of when the truth can seem to hurt by not accepting it for what it is:
You’re in a loving relationship…you’ve found the person you want to be with more than anyone you’ve ever been with. The relationship is going great, then the person tells you that they want to be with someone else.
Can that hurt? Possibly…
On the surface level, it doesn’t feel good. However, when take a step back and look at it from a broader perspective. Is it better to know that the person you’re with wants to be with someone else or would you rather them go out and be with someone else (without you knowing)?
When you know the truth about something, you can deal with the situation for what it is. In this instance, you can make adjustments in your relationship or decide to end it if you feel that’s the best option.
Another scenario when the truth seems to hurt is when we make up dis-empowering conversations about the truth. For example, using the same relationship scenario:
Your mate says: “I want to be with someone else”
Your conversation about it:
“I’m not good enough
“I’m such a loser”
“I’m not pretty enough”
“I’ll never be happy”
“I should have never gotten that close to someone”
“What’s wrong with me”
This totally thwarts your ability to deal with the ‘truth’ from a rational place.
I’m not suggesting that you become a robot and not experience emotions. I’m suggesting that you look for the ‘truth’ in situations to deal with them more powerfully.
Knowing the truth in a situation is ALWAYS better than not. [tag]Accepting the truth[/tag] for what it is may not feel great at the time, but the understanding allows you to make decisions on what it so… not what you don’t know about.