Putting undue stress on yourself to accomplish a “unrealistic” goals can be self defeating.

What I mean to say is that it took you time to develop the belief system you currently have… so it only stands to reason that it is going to take some time for you to change that belief system. I’m not suggesting that it’s not possible for a person to change “overnight” but it is highly unlikely.

I think we put enough pressure on ourselves as it is, and when you put this type of pressure on yourself where you are saying, “Well, I’ve read this book on Friday, and now it’s Sunday, why am I not a millionaire?

Why am I not attracting all the wealth and abundance that this book said I would?” You’re putting more pressure on yourself than necessary, and really what is happening then is the opposite of what you want to happen.

Unnecessary Pressure Can Negatively Impact Achieving Your Goals

You’re putting stress on yourself, you’re putting pressure on yourself, and you’re setting an expectation for yourself that is highly unlikely. Not that it’s impossible, but it’s highly unlikely that your goal or the change that you want to take place will actually be accomplished in that short a period of time.

Again, I just want to emphasize here. I would never tell anyone, “You can’t do something.” I would never tell someone, “This will never happen.” Because I believe that if you believe that thing on every level, with every fiber of your body, you will create that situation for your life.

But what I do want to say here is really take into consideration the fact that when you were two, three, four, five, six years old, seven years old, those are the absolute, most impressionable ages in anyone’s life.

How Your Brain Processes Information

Your brain is like just a sponge, just taking in information. Not only does it just take in every bit of information that it gets, it also takes it on as the truth. It’s actually taking that information on as this-is-the-way-things-are. Because of that, it starts to build a belief system. It starts to actually mold your paradigm that you will potentially live into.

Of course, again, that paradigm can shift at any given time. But if you’re 25 years old, and you’ve learned something at five years old, particularly, if that thing was reinforced at five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, 11, 12, 20 and still 25.

I mean, if you think about the fact that something may have been taught to you and reinforced in your life for 20-some, 30-some, 40-some years, the likelihood of that belief system going away overnight, again, is very, very low.

The point is that if you truly want to change your belief system and create the life you want you have to stop the insanity and give yourself time. Be persistent and consistent in your efforts and you will see the rewards before you know it.


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  1. What a beautiful post, and one I can relate to fully. I was able to change money beliefs quickly, but relationship (“good enough”) beliefs took longer. I like how you encourage people not to get frustrated. That’s the key! This is a learning journey we’re on — not a mad dash to our destination. And it’s FUN!

    Thanks for writing about this!

  2. Hi!
    Your post certainly does make sense. When time is taken chances are the results will be better. However, some of us have little or no time left, having already frittered away the time we once had. When immediate results are required how do we keep from putting too much presure on ourselves? The subject, of course, is money. How do we get enough of it quickly enough to avoid all that unpleasentness?

  3. You are right Antonio. Overnight changes will be called ‘miracles’and they are few otherwise they would cease to amaze us!
    The thing is that most of us and especially we believers, want God to do something. We are blest with everything that we need to bring about the change. We just need perseverance and discipline and that needs work! Right?

  4. “I mean, if you think about the fact that something may have been taught to you and reinforced in your life for 20-some, 30-some, 40-some years, the likelihood of that belief system going away overnight, again, is very, very low.”

    And this is what it is ALL about. Changing our thoughts; changing our reality. It reminds me of one of the interviewees on “What the Bleep,” who said…

    “It’s a wonderful idea,positive thinking…
    but what it usually means is that I have
    a little smear of positive thinking…
    covering a whole mass of negative thinking.”

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