I went roller skating last night and fell on my butt.
I fell because I was trying not to fall. You see, I hadn’t been skating in several months and had deemed myself “rusty”. So I was skating around – legs and arms stiff, tensed-up and nervous (in other words, worried).
So after going around a few times like that, I tried a side jump (which I always do) and fell smack on my butt.
OUCH! (It still hurts as I write this)
I got up and dusted myself off…then sat down for a while.
As I was sitting there (in pain) I realized a couple of things:
The first is that I hadn’t fallen in a LOOOOOONG time… and that I hadn’t ‘worried’ about falling in just as long.
When I was skating regularly, I never worried about falling, and interestingly enough, I rarely did.
The Law of Attraction states that we get what we focus on… even if it’s a ‘fear’ or something we don’t want.
After sitting there for a while, I went back out…this time not worrying about falling. I performed the same jump I was trying before and landed perfectly.
The second epihany I had was the realization that there is nothing “wrong” with falling. My fear of falling wasn’t really about me hurting myself…it was motivated by ‘not looking bad’ in front of all the people in the skating rink.
But here’s the reality – IT’S A SKATING RINK!!! People fall!
It’s not only normal…it’s expected.
When I fell, no one laughed; the DJ didn’t stop the music, turn the spotlight on me and say, “look at that loser that just fell on the floor!” In fact, a couple of people came to ask if I was okay and helped me up.
What was I afraid of?
Nothing really. Only the ridiculous scenario I came up with in my head.
There are three lessons here you can benefit from:
1) Focus on what you want…not what you don’t want
2) Loosen up! Just go with the flow of things. Usually when you’re tense and fighting things (i.e. struggling, worrying, etc) you tend to attract the things you don’t want…at the minimum, you’ll make things more difficult for yourself.
3) Get clear on what you’re “really” afraid of. Sometimes it’s some imaginary scenario that will never happen anyway.