Our beliefs are the foundation of who we are, what we think, what we say, how we act, and ultimately, how the world shows up for us. However, when we have limiting beliefs, we actually limit our life.
Limiting beliefs will greatly affect your relationships. It can cause problems if you have any beliefs about what can or cannot, should or should not happen in a relationship. For example: You believe that the person youre dating should not see an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend because its bad for the relationship. What you don’t see is that the person youre with really cares about you. The relationship they maintain with an ex can be for multiple reasons. Are there children involved? Does your significant other pay alimony to their ex? Was the break up mutual? This doesn’t mean that they still love them, it just means that they are having a working relationship for the sake of whatever binds them together. But if your belief is that theyre up to no good, then youll create that for yourself and find things that make it so.
When you limit your beliefs when it comes to employment, it can be critical to whether you will keep the job or change your career several times. You may find that you are staying with a job you hate because you either think there is nothing out there for you to do or because it is the right thing to do. Fear is just another form of belief and can also seriously limit us in our lives. It can keep us from making career changes or from going back to school, taking new classes, etc. It can keep us from doing the things we want to do because we are security-minded.
We all place limitations on what we think is appropriate when it comes to education. Lets say you decided not to go to college right after school or dropped out of college. Youve been employed with the company that you are with for 10 years. You have been thinking a lot about going back to school to get a degree, but you keep putting it off because you believe youre too old. You won’t make the grade. You have forgotten everything. Well, maybe you have forgotten some things from when you were in school because you don’t use them. That is normal. It doesn’t make you unintelligent, just normal. But you beliefs keep you from going which keeps you in the same place youre in now.
Everyone has heard the phrase think outside the box. Even Taco Bell uses it in their slogan, sort of (Think Outside the Bun). Most people are so used to routine that they don’t realize that they are limiting themselves in their lives creatively. They think that they are supposed to stay within those lines.
What if you woke up tomorrow and you didn’t get to have that cup of coffee to start your day off? Would your whole day be off? Would you be able to function normally? Physically, you probably wouldn’t, but psychologically you would because its outside of your normal daily routine and you most likely believe youd be off so you would.
Finding creativity again in your life requires you to change your routine. Do something spontaneous. Don’t follow the set pattern all the time. You will find the creativity pouring back in your life.
By changing the things you believe, you can actually change your reality. Take the time to look at your beliefs and ask yourself, Why do I believe this?, then ask, Does this belief support the things I want in my life? Most times that answer will be no. If it is, then you have the opportunity to change that belief to the things that support your desires, which will lead to greater joy and happiness in your life.