You may still be thinking about your goals for this New Year, but fear may be holding you back from actually moving forward.

When you stop to think about the risks, you would see that there really are none. You actually gain from overcoming certain fears. You may gain wisdom, self-esteem, or even a new business venture.

You may also picture the worst case scenarios that could happen. While this might be a possibility, you probably have also come to realize that the worst case scenarios, more often than not, never happen.

Fearing to Overcome Fear

Why do you hesitate to overcome your fear? Is it because you think that you have something to risk? Maybe it’s because you have lost your self-confidence?

These emotions that you may feel are all by choice; you induce them upon yourself they don’t come from your fears. You choose to feel a lack of confidence or doubtful about yourself or the goal, which causes this fear. So there are times when you simply have to get over it quickly.

It Only Seems Real

The acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. It’s the ‘appearing real’ part that we have to really pay attention to. If it appears real in our perception, it appears real in our reality, and that is significant enough to ultimately prevent you from overcoming your fears and accomplishing your goals.

Follow these steps to overcome your fears now:

1. Write down all your fears that are holding you back.

2. Say to yourself “I will no longer allow you fears to keep me from the life I desire. I decide right now that  I’m in control and I can have the life I want. I can accomplish any goal I set before myself. I am free of your bonds and I release you.”

3. Then take the paper and burn it.

This is symbolic of you letting your fears go completely and there’s no looking back.

No longer allow fear to control your life. Now is the time to move forward toward the life you deserve!

The interesting this is not that I fell, but why I fell.

I fell because I was trying not to fall.  You see, I hadn’t been skating in several months and had deemed myself “rusty”.  So I was skating around – legs and arms stiff, tensed-up and nervous (in other words, worried).

So after going around a few times like that, I tried a side jump (which I always do) and fell smack on my butt.

OUCH! (It still hurts as I write this)

I got up and dusted myself off…then sat down for a while.

As I was sitting there (in pain) I realized a couple of things:

The first is that I hadn’t fallen in a LOOOOOONG time… and that I hadn’t ‘worried’ about falling in just as long.

When I was skating regularly, I never worried about falling, and interestingly enough, I rarely did.

The Law of Attraction states that we get what we focus on… even if it’s a ‘fear’ or something we don’t want.

After sitting there for a while, I went back out…this time not worrying about falling. I performed the same jump I was trying before and landed perfectly.

The second epihany I had was the realization that there is nothing “wrong” with falling.  My fear of falling wasn’t really about me hurting myself…it was motivated by ‘not looking bad’ in front of all the people in the skating rink.

But here’s the reality – IT’S A SKATING RINK!!!  People fall!

It’s not only normal…it’s expected.

When I fell, no one laughed; the DJ didn’t stop the music, turn the spotlight on me and say, “look at that loser that just fell on the floor!”  In fact, a couple of people came to ask if I was okay and helped me up.

What was I afraid of?

Nothing really.   Only the ridiculous scenario I came up with in my head.

Practical Application
There are three lessons here you can benefit from:

1) Focus on what you want…not what you don’t want

2) Loosen up! Just go with the flow of things. Usually when you’re tense and fighting things (i.e. struggling, worrying, etc) you tend to attract the things you don’t want…at the minimum, you’ll make things more difficult for yourself.

3) Get clear on what you’re “really” afraid of. Sometimes it’s some imaginary scenario that will never happen anyway.