Here is another great example of why it’s so important to be clear on what you want:

So here I am, doing some ‘quick’ grocery shopping, but I ended up getting way too many things…as usual. (My mother always said, “never go grocery shopping when you’re hungry…’cause you end up buying too much stuff.” So, what to I do??? the opposite…of course

So, as I’m gathering the items that I wanted, I found myself having to balance things in one arm, hold things under my other arm…to the point where I was about to drop everything on the floor…And since one of the items was a glass container, I didn’t want to drop it and I figured I needed a basket. Duh.

But… I was all the way in the back of the store and I didn’t want to walk “all the way” back up to the front to get a basket. So, I put out the intention (and even said aloud) “There will be an empty basket around the corner…”

And guess what happened???

I found an empty basket around the corner…

Whoo Hoo! Good for me, right?

Well, not quite. This is what I found:

It wasn’t a shopping basket.

It was the basket that was used for free samples…and it happened to be empty.

So, I got exactly what I asked for…but not exactly what I wanted.

Practical Application

Be clear on what you ask for…or you just might get it.

Peace V

I realized something about children that most adults don’t use in their lives.

– Expectation –

She wanted some crackers and kept saying,

“crackers…crackers…crackers…crackers…”

Not screaming or yelling, just calmly (and persistently) saying “crackers.”

If you have kids or ever been around a 20-month-old when they want something, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

Children EXPECT to get the things they want…EVERY time.

They don’t understand the concept of asking and NOT receiving what they want.

Most adults tend to ask for the things they want “passively” or “doubtfully” – and consequently, they end up NOT attracting the things they desire.

Here’s how to ask and get the things you want:

Go here: Expectation

Antonio

FYI – You don’t have to continuously as for things over and over like Aria did, but I do EXPECT you to click here to discover how to get the things you want

I hope my video conveys that something being “accidental” is not the same as “releasing someone from responsibility”. I truly believe Ray is responsible for what happened and he should deal with whatever comes along with such an event…but I do not believe that he is the “obsessed with death” or “God complex” person people are saying he is.

My continued condolences to the friends and families of Kirby Brown, James Shore and Liz Neuman

in addition to the things that most are thankful for, there’s also the opportunity to be thankful for the “All” by recognizing the totality gratitude.

It’s very easy to be thankful for the things we consider “blessings.”

We might say, “I’m thankful for my family, food, god, etc.”

However true gratitude encompasses the all. Meaning: being grateful for everything.

Metaphysically, to be thankful for one thing is the equivalent of being thankful for everything…because everything is connected – everything is one. Unfortunately most don’t see it that way…they pick and choose.

So, instead of (consciously) singling out things and only being thankful for the blessings, be thankful for the all.

Without these other things, we would not have anything to be thankful for.

Find it within yourself to be thankful for the boss who fired you, so that you could start your own business.

Be thankful for meeting your ex-wife in order to have the children that you had, or even the learning experience you shared.

Be thankful for the economy for creating opportunity when some opportunities are not seen

Be thankful for the all and you’ll experience the true meaning of Thanksgiving.

Namaste and thank you!

Of course…

What was your response?

If you’re like most people, you probably said, “Thanks, you too…” and went about your way…not putting much thought into it.

Most people say “have a nice day” almost as if they’re wishing you “good luck”. They’re saying it as if it’s some random thing that can either happen or not happen…but have you ever stopped to think that having a nice day can be a choice?

You can choose to have a nice say no matter what’s going on that day. You don’t need any luck, you just have to choose to have a nice day – no matter what the situation.

I’m going to offer you a suggestion or a “request” today:

HAVE (choose) a nice day…

What we see in our physical universe represents only 1% of creation. 99% of ‘creation’ happens in the unseen.

Hmmm..

I was running behind Aria, keeping her from puling things from the shelves, pushing the shopping cart and talking on the phone simultaneously but I would not come anywhere near calling it suffering. I was actually having a good time.

I would say with 99.9% certainty that this woman lives what “I” would consider a miserable life.

Why?

Because people talk about what they’re thinking about…or what their perception of things are.

You’ve heard the phrase, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” It’s so true. It’s all about perception.

She saw what I was going through as ‘suffering’ because SHE would have felt that way about HER experience.

What are some of the things you think about and talk about that you’re imposing ‘suffering’ on yourself.

Do you plop down on the couch after work and say, “I’m dead tired!” ?
When you’re feeling ill, do you declare, “I’m as sick as a dog!” ?

Practical Application

There are tons of phrases we use freely that impose suffering on ourselves.

Be aware of the things you’re saying about yourself and others. Make sure they’re the phrases that are attractin what you want and not what you don’t want.

What I mean to say is that it took you time to develop the belief system you currently have… so it only stands to reason that it is going to take some time for you to change that belief system. I’m not suggesting that it’s not possible for a person to change “overnight” but it is highly unlikely.

I think we put enough pressure on ourselves as it is, and when you put this type of pressure on yourself where you are saying, “Well, I’ve read this book on Friday, and now it’s Sunday, why am I not a millionaire?

Why am I not attracting all the wealth and abundance that this book said I would?” You’re putting more pressure on yourself than necessary, and really what is happening then is the opposite of what you want to happen.

Unnecessary Pressure Can Negatively Impact Achieving Your Goals

You’re putting stress on yourself, you’re putting pressure on yourself, and you’re setting an expectation for yourself that is highly unlikely. Not that it’s impossible, but it’s highly unlikely that your goal or the change that you want to take place will actually be accomplished in that short a period of time.

Again, I just want to emphasize here. I would never tell anyone, “You can’t do something.” I would never tell someone, “This will never happen.” Because I believe that if you believe that thing on every level, with every fiber of your body, you will create that situation for your life.

But what I do want to say here is really take into consideration the fact that when you were two, three, four, five, six years old, seven years old, those are the absolute, most impressionable ages in anyone’s life.

How Your Brain Processes Information

Your brain is like just a sponge, just taking in information. Not only does it just take in every bit of information that it gets, it also takes it on as the truth. It’s actually taking that information on as this-is-the-way-things-are. Because of that, it starts to build a belief system. It starts to actually mold your paradigm that you will potentially live into.

Of course, again, that paradigm can shift at any given time. But if you’re 25 years old, and you’ve learned something at five years old, particularly, if that thing was reinforced at five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, 11, 12, 20 and still 25.

I mean, if you think about the fact that something may have been taught to you and reinforced in your life for 20-some, 30-some, 40-some years, the likelihood of that belief system going away overnight, again, is very, very low.

The point is that if you truly want to change your belief system and create the life you want you have to stop the insanity and give yourself time. Be persistent and consistent in your efforts and you will see the rewards before you know it.

My conversation with this young lady turned into a whole new conversation when I pointed out that she was getting so upset about something that she had a significant level of attachment to. A significant level of what I’d like to call ‘significance’ which is the weight or importance that you put on something that can easily be causing that level of frustration.

What I was explaining to her is this: sometimes you may or may not know what you are thinking at any given time on a subconscious level, or believing, more specifically, about something at any given time. She told me, “Well, I’ve read this book and I’ve read that book, and I’ve done this work this weekend, and I cleared it out, all of my financial blocks.” And I asked her, “You cleared out your financial blocks in one weekend?” She goes, “Well, yeah, I did. Because I did this self-evaluation and blah, blah, blah, and all my blocks were cleared. And I still don’t know why I didn’t get this thing.” I said, “Okay.”

Well, I’m not here to tell anyone that they can or cannot clear up something within one weekend. But I will say this: Based on my studies, and my 20+ years of research into the human mind, the human brain, human behavior, and how humans interact with the rest of the world, it’s highly unlikely that a 20, 30, 40, 50-year-old person can completely change their entire belief system in one weekend.

Now wait,  hear me out, please.  I am not, by any means, saying that it is impossible. I am not, by any means, saying that it cannot be done. I’m sure that it has been done, and I’m sure that it will be done again. However, I think it is the exception rather than the norm.

I really do feel that it takes a little bit more work than picking up a book, reading it, and saying, “After having read this book, I’ve dropped all of my negative or self-defeating or limiting belief systems that I’ve been living my entire life.”

I think it is very unlikely – not impossible. Not impossible, by any means, but I do think that it is unlikely. Again, of course, this is based on my research. This is based on my experience, not only with myself, but with other people as well.

Again, I have to emphasize: I am sure that someone has had a life-changing situation. That’s really the caveat that I’d like to add in. Typically, when someone makes a huge paradigm shift like that, it’s because of some type of life-changing or traumatic, or I would just say some hugely significant event – a car wreck, someone dying or getting really sick, or some other major life event – that causes someone to really stop in their tracks and reflect.

Again, I have to emphasize, I know I’ve said it a few times, and I’m not saying that a book could not do that. I’m not saying that a home-study program that you took in one weekend couldn’t do that. I’m not saying that a weekend seminar couldn’t do that. However, again, based on my studies, I find it to be highly unlikely that that is the case.

I say this, because I want you to understand that it is a process. It is an ongoing process, and one that we all have to stay on top of to make sure we are manifesting what we say we want in life.

There are a number of popular “Self Help” books out there that deal with “personality types”. They list a number of categories and state that everyone fits neatly into one of them. People seem to eat this stuff up. They look through the descriptions and find one that seems to fit them perfectly. “Wow,” they’ll say, “that’s describes me exactly!” The book will usually say that by knowing your type, you’ll understand why you think and react the way you do.

This may help some people to a certain point. For instance, someone may know that they often have extreme or inappropriate reactions, but don’t understand why. When they’re told that this behavior is typical of their “type”, they feel some sense of relief. Instead of believing they’re just a weak or bad person, they see that it’s not their fault. They also see that they’re not alone, which brings some comfort.

Feeling negative about yourself is never a good thing, so if this helps to move you from a place of self-loathing it can be helpful. But there some real risks involved with this kind of thinking.

First of all, it can provide an excuse for not making positive changes. I’ve heard people say, “I can’t help thinking or reacting this way – I’m a such-and-such type, so I have no choice.” They believe that because they are a “type”, their thoughts and feelings are out of their control. They make the decision that they have no choice but to “go along for the ride”. By the way, this goes for zodiacs as well.

Additionally, in line with the law of attraction, when you focus on ‘being a certain way’ you’ll attract the situations that bring about you ‘being a certain way’. A good friend of mine used to always curse people out and say, “Well, that’s the Aries in me…I can’t help it…” So, guess what, she’d always attract people that did things to get cursed out. (Though there really isn’t anything that serious that you “need” to curse someone out…but you get my point)

Turning control of your life over to other forces or people can sometimes feel comforting. You might feel relief from the pressure involved in making decisions and accepting responsibility. This can feel like freedom, but it’s a very superficial freedom. It’s really more like deciding to put yourself in prison.

Your power as a human being comes from being able to create yourself and your reality. You should desire to become the person you ideally want to be, not the person that the universe “determined” you must be. The universe wants you to expand your horizons and use your full potential, not limit yourself. The universe is created by you imagining what you desire and then acting to make that desire a reality. Your potential for growth has no limits, except for the limits you impose on yourself.

The personality “type” that you are now is a result of past beliefs. You may say, “But when I look at my past, I can see that I have always been this way. This is obviously who I really am.” That pattern of thought may have been there for a long time, but that doesn’t mean it can’t change. It remains a pattern because you reinforce it and give it power.

Maybe this has been your life story so far, but you have the power to tell a different story. You can’t change the past, but you can determine everything that will happen from this point on. Decide what you want to be like in the future – which starts NOW! Start telling that story to yourself. Focus all of your attention on the next chapter of your life. The universe will always support your desires.

Practical Application

Just because you’re a “ESTJ” or a “Libra” or a “Red” or a “Bear” – you can ALWAYS choose to be the person you want to be. Use the knowledge of your “personality type” as an empowerment tool, not a crutch