Had a really interesting conversation with a young lady who was going through a situation and I told her “…everything was gonna be alright.”

She got upset with me.

I asked her why was she upset and she said, “because of your response…”

So, I asked her, “How were you expecting me to respond?” and she says, “Well when I tell most people what I just told you, they would say “I’m so sorry to hear that”, or something similar ”

So I asked her, “Does it make you feel better when people say that?

She says, “Well it makes me feel that people care.”

Geez.

So because I don’t feel “bad” about her situation, she assumes I don’t care???

I think we are programmed for misery and anytime something shows up differently, it doesn’t feel right.

And the real question to answer here is, “Should me feeling bad make you feel better about your situation??” I would hope not

When has someone feeling bad about something ever made, you feel good? I would assume never…unless your intention is to make them feel bad, and that’s the case, that’s another story.

The one thing you can always control in your life is the ability to change the way you feel about a situation. Though you may feel you can’t change the situation, you can choose to feel bad, or you can choose to feel good. And 9 times out of 10, feeling good will ‘change’ the situation.

Practical Application

Keep your vibrations up….no matter what. Don’t feel bad if someone else feels bad because it’s not going to make them feel better. The positive energy from YOU keeping your vibrations up will help them 100 times more than “Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that…” or “I feel so bad for you..bla, bla, bla”

Here is another great example of why it’s so important to be clear on what you want:

So here I am, doing some ‘quick’ grocery shopping, but I ended up getting way too many things…as usual. (My mother always said, “never go grocery shopping when you’re hungry…’cause you end up buying too much stuff.” So, what to I do??? the opposite…of course

So, as I’m gathering the items that I wanted, I found myself having to balance things in one arm, hold things under my other arm…to the point where I was about to drop everything on the floor…And since one of the items was a glass container, I didn’t want to drop it and I figured I needed a basket. Duh.

But… I was all the way in the back of the store and I didn’t want to walk “all the way” back up to the front to get a basket. So, I put out the intention (and even said aloud) “There will be an empty basket around the corner…”

And guess what happened???

I found an empty basket around the corner…

Whoo Hoo! Good for me, right?

Well, not quite. This is what I found:

It wasn’t a shopping basket.

It was the basket that was used for free samples…and it happened to be empty.

So, I got exactly what I asked for…but not exactly what I wanted.

Practical Application

Be clear on what you ask for…or you just might get it.

Peace V

And the good news about that is that if it’s your fault, you can do something about it.

As long as you’re blaming your misery, frustrations, etc on your ex-wife, your ex-husband, Obama or whatever scapegoat of your choosing…you’ll remain helpless and be able to do nothing to make your life better.

Think about that for a moment.

Is there anything you’re blaming your situation on?

If so, stop and take responsibility for your life…

Because the more responsibility you take, the more control you have over your live and the better your life can be.

The key is to do this without judgment. Recognizing that your vibrational level has attracted the things that have shown up in your life… These things have shown up to teach you the lessons you needed to get you where you are now.

So, changing what you’re vibrating will attract different things.

Practical Application

Take an inventory of the things you may be blaming your situation on….STOP.

Recognize that you are the creator of your life and CHOOSE to create something differently.

I realized something about children that most adults don’t use in their lives.

– Expectation –

She wanted some crackers and kept saying,

“crackers…crackers…crackers…crackers…”

Not screaming or yelling, just calmly (and persistently) saying “crackers.”

If you have kids or ever been around a 20-month-old when they want something, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

Children EXPECT to get the things they want…EVERY time.

They don’t understand the concept of asking and NOT receiving what they want.

Most adults tend to ask for the things they want “passively” or “doubtfully” – and consequently, they end up NOT attracting the things they desire.

Here’s how to ask and get the things you want:

Go here: Expectation

Antonio

FYI – You don’t have to continuously as for things over and over like Aria did, but I do EXPECT you to click here to discover how to get the things you want

Hmmm..

I was running behind Aria, keeping her from puling things from the shelves, pushing the shopping cart and talking on the phone simultaneously but I would not come anywhere near calling it suffering. I was actually having a good time.

I would say with 99.9% certainty that this woman lives what “I” would consider a miserable life.

Why?

Because people talk about what they’re thinking about…or what their perception of things are.

You’ve heard the phrase, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.” It’s so true. It’s all about perception.

She saw what I was going through as ‘suffering’ because SHE would have felt that way about HER experience.

What are some of the things you think about and talk about that you’re imposing ‘suffering’ on yourself.

Do you plop down on the couch after work and say, “I’m dead tired!” ?
When you’re feeling ill, do you declare, “I’m as sick as a dog!” ?

Practical Application

There are tons of phrases we use freely that impose suffering on ourselves.

Be aware of the things you’re saying about yourself and others. Make sure they’re the phrases that are attractin what you want and not what you don’t want.

My question is how do you NOT make more money???

Money is just like everything else – It’s energy.

And what do we know about energy? It’s massively abundant.

The ONLY difference with money and most other energy is our thoughts about it.

I’ll give you a scenario.

Imagine you’re in your kitchen and you’re making an apple pie… but you’re almost out of apples and you need one more. You go to your next door neighbor (unless you live in New York just kidding) and you ask your neighbor…

“Hey ____ (neighbor), can I have an apple for an apple pie I’m baking?”

They answer, “sure…here ya go…” (side note: For most people, they’d answer that way even if it were their last apple”)

So imagine this scenario:

You’re in your kitchen (making an apple pie) but you’re doing your bills also. You notice that your phone bill is higher than you thought and you need about $50 to cover the balance.

You go to your neighbor’s house…and you ask,

“Hey ____ (neighbor), can I have 50 bucks to pay my phone bill?”

Now…how do you feel right now?

Just take a moment to think about how reading this scenario made you feel…what did you think about, what emotions did you experience?

Did you feel uncomfortable?
Did you think it was ‘stupid’? Saying, who would ask a neighbor for 50 bucks?
How would YOU have handled that situation?

If you felt ANY differently about the money than you did the apple, then you may want to consider how you feel about money. If you felt uncomfortable from the very beginning, you may want to consider how you feel about lack or asking others for help.

Practical Application

Say these affirmations to yourself:

• Money is abundant and is freely mine
• Money comes to me easy and effortlessly
• Earning $1 is just as easy as earning $1,000

Write these affirmations somewhere where you will be able to see them regularly and repeat them. You will be on your way to making more money with ease!

My conversation with this young lady turned into a whole new conversation when I pointed out that she was getting so upset about something that she had a significant level of attachment to. A significant level of what I’d like to call ‘significance’ which is the weight or importance that you put on something that can easily be causing that level of frustration.

What I was explaining to her is this: sometimes you may or may not know what you are thinking at any given time on a subconscious level, or believing, more specifically, about something at any given time. She told me, “Well, I’ve read this book and I’ve read that book, and I’ve done this work this weekend, and I cleared it out, all of my financial blocks.” And I asked her, “You cleared out your financial blocks in one weekend?” She goes, “Well, yeah, I did. Because I did this self-evaluation and blah, blah, blah, and all my blocks were cleared. And I still don’t know why I didn’t get this thing.” I said, “Okay.”

Well, I’m not here to tell anyone that they can or cannot clear up something within one weekend. But I will say this: Based on my studies, and my 20+ years of research into the human mind, the human brain, human behavior, and how humans interact with the rest of the world, it’s highly unlikely that a 20, 30, 40, 50-year-old person can completely change their entire belief system in one weekend.

Now wait,  hear me out, please.  I am not, by any means, saying that it is impossible. I am not, by any means, saying that it cannot be done. I’m sure that it has been done, and I’m sure that it will be done again. However, I think it is the exception rather than the norm.

I really do feel that it takes a little bit more work than picking up a book, reading it, and saying, “After having read this book, I’ve dropped all of my negative or self-defeating or limiting belief systems that I’ve been living my entire life.”

I think it is very unlikely – not impossible. Not impossible, by any means, but I do think that it is unlikely. Again, of course, this is based on my research. This is based on my experience, not only with myself, but with other people as well.

Again, I have to emphasize: I am sure that someone has had a life-changing situation. That’s really the caveat that I’d like to add in. Typically, when someone makes a huge paradigm shift like that, it’s because of some type of life-changing or traumatic, or I would just say some hugely significant event – a car wreck, someone dying or getting really sick, or some other major life event – that causes someone to really stop in their tracks and reflect.

Again, I have to emphasize, I know I’ve said it a few times, and I’m not saying that a book could not do that. I’m not saying that a home-study program that you took in one weekend couldn’t do that. I’m not saying that a weekend seminar couldn’t do that. However, again, based on my studies, I find it to be highly unlikely that that is the case.

I say this, because I want you to understand that it is a process. It is an ongoing process, and one that we all have to stay on top of to make sure we are manifesting what we say we want in life.

Though I’ve been teaching the Law of Attraction for the last 20 years in different capacities I am still amazed at the complexities of how it works. It is not an exact science as it relates to what we consider science – things that can be proven through the scientific method of experimenting and testing and coming up with theories and proofs.

I say this because the one thing that we don’t have the ability to do in science is to know what someone is thinking. While we do have the technology that can discern if someone is thinking or not, and there are even some technologies that can dictate whether someone is thinking something positive or negative. Obviously, this is something that can only be done through a significant level of technology intervention.

Meaning, your head has to be connected to all these cathodes and all of these things that monitor your brain activity. Obviously, it wouldn’t be feasible to walk around like that every day for the rest of your life to make a determination of whether you’re having positive or negative thoughts.

The point that I’m making here is, sometimes, we could be thinking something on a conscious level, but actually be believing something different on a subconscious level. You could be thinking wealth and abundance, but you could be believing in scarcity and poverty, because that may have been what you were taught as a youngster by your parents.

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” and whatever other variations of that very, very limiting belief system. We listen to these things, we hear these things as children, and we buy into them, and we believe them as adults. Whether or not we realize it, those beliefs are still lingering a lot of times in areas of our subconscious mind that we are not even aware of.

The point I’m making here is that her frustration really got me thinking about a few things as it relates to the Law of Attraction and a shift that I think I’ve been making over the last few years. This is actually a twofold shift. One is the shift that I’ve been making, and secondly, just a piece of advice that may help you out.

The shift that I was thinking about is looking at the Law of Attraction more so as a Theory of Attraction versus a Law. Why? Because there are certain things that we just cannot measure. We just don’t know what someone is thinking at any given time. As it relates to this young lady and her situation, she was calling me, crying and frustrated. “Why didn’t this thing work for me? All these Law of Attraction, this, that, and the other. Why is God putting me through these?” I mean, just going on and on and really mad and angry, even to the point where she was cursing about it.

In the next post I am going to offer to you the same advice I gave her.

One is that I want a Mac.

Sorry PC guys….I’m going over to the other side. I’ve been getting so frustrated with going back and forth with the issues and ills of owning a PC.

I’ll probably keep my laptop…I’m not just going to throw it in the trash but I’m just at the point now where I’m conceding that the Mac is just by far a better computing system…especially for what I’m doing–podcasting, video stuff and few other things–it’s just a better platform to be on.

From my understanding and from what I’ve seen and heard from other people, Macs just have less problems, less viruses, all that stuff. It’s just one of those things where I’m just really wanting to get into a Mac.

The other reason why I have the Mac emblem there is related but more specifically as it relates to the law of attraction. I want to manifest a brand new Mac book Pro in the next 3 months – for no money at all.

The Mac I want, including tax costs $5,919.43. This is for the 2.93GHz Intel chip, 8G of RAM, 256GB solid-state drive–plus other software stuff.

That would be the absolute perfect computer setup for me and What I want to do is to manifest it without paying a dime for it…
So, having the Mac symbol on the back of my dell is just a constant reminder of what it is I’m looking to manifest.

Maybe the computer won’t just show up out of think air, maybe it will. But, I’m not limiting myself to it “magically showing up…I’m also open to the possibility of having an influx of $5,900 above and beyond my regular income. Like some unexpected new projects, or a check from stuff I did months ago…if anything like this occurs, I’ll feel that it’s the answer to my desire.

So for all of you who are wondering why I’m walking around pretending to be a Mac guy, (what this one guy said in Starbucks the other day) that’s what I’m doing. I’m manifesting a new computer for myself!

Imagine that you’re an archer, and your goals are the target. What hope do you have of hitting a fuzzy target or a target that is “out there somewhere”? Not much. You have to have a very specific target to aim at; otherwise, no matter how good your technique is, you have no hope of hitting the bulls-eye. The first step in reaching a goal is having a clear image of what you want to achieve.

Some people have fairly clear goals, but only for a time. They had one goal yesterday, but a different goal today – and you can bet they will have a new one tomorrow. Even if you have a clear picture of what you want, you can’t hit a target that keeps moving. Decide on a specific goal, and then keep that image fixed in your mind. Develop a steady aim.

Don’t let a lack of immediate results discourage you. Keep refining your aim, and you’ll find yourself getting closer to your goal. You may not score with your first arrow; just keep concentrating on that target until you finally hit it. Nothing will ever be accomplished by giving up when obstacles are encountered. If you can learn from your mistakes, you’ll turn those obstacles into opportunities for growth.

Keep at it, and you will see progress. Use this improvement to assure yourself that, in time, you’ll get to where you want to be. Steps in the right direction, no matter how small they may sometimes seem, will eventually bring you to your destination. Always maintain a positive attitude. Believe that you can accomplish your ultimate goal. Better yet, know that you will accomplish it!
Make note of your improvement to stay encouraged, but remain focused on the ultimate goal – to hit the bulls-eye.

One of the most famous archers in the world says that though he spends time refining his technique, when he shoots in competition he focuses only on the end result. He doesn’t think about the position of his hand or the bow, he just imagines the arrow already being in the center of that small gold circle. Everything else takes care of itself. Using clear visualization, he has made shots that seem humanly impossible.

Finally, have fun on your journey. Enjoy the many adventures you will have along the way. Delight in seeing your progress. Positive thoughts will attract more positive thoughts – which will turn into positive results. You will arrive at your destination, but you don’t have to wait until you achieve your goals to have a joyful life.