There’s a colloquial term that a lot of the kids use nowadays – I know I sound like an old man, term these kids use; whippersnappers. Yeah, there’s a term that the kids say now, “Let your haters be your motivators.” It’s a really prolific term, if I do say so, and very forward-thinking, because it has a lot of significance to what it is.
What’s A Hater?
To give you a background to know what a “hater” is. A hater is one who is typically jealous or envious of someone else to the degree where they have either disdain or dislike for that person for no other reason than jealousy. That would be your technical definition of a hater.
It’s one thing to be jealous but it’s another thing to say, “Oh, that such-and-such; he’s nothing”, or “He thinks he’s better than so-and-so”, or “He’s really not that good”. That’s what a hater is. It’s someone who has disdain for someone else, specifically and solely based on jealousy and for no other reason.
So this phrase, “Let your haters be your motivators,” I think, is a very provocative concept. I say this because I remember listening to Bill Bartman, who is a billionaire, and he’s also known as the Unknown Billionaire, written up in four entrepreneur magazines and such. He talked about this concept that I’ve been thinking about for quite some time, and he calls it “negative motivators”.
He goes into telling this story about how his fiancée at the time, sister,was very down on him. He had made some bad choices, if you will, and had grown up with a certain type of lifestyle. And this sister would say, “Oh, you’re not good enough for my sister; you’re just a loser, you’re just a drunk”…, blah-blah-blah.
He used that sister as a negative motivator. He used her to help propel him forward. That’s what a negative motivator is – it’s a seemingly negative event, negative occurrence, and/or person/people that can propel you forward in life.
- Think about the people or situations around you right now that you can use as negative motivators to move you from one place in life to the next or to reach that next goal.
- Make a list of these people or situations that you can use to make positive changes in your life, however large or small that change may be.
- Next to each person or situation write how you can use this negative motivator to create something positive for yourself.
As you find yourself around the people or situations listed remember your list and how you want to continue moving in a positive direction. Remind yourself of your goals, the lifestyle you want, and how you see yourself achieving them. Before you know it, you too will be telling amazing stories about your haters being your motivators.