I did something the other day that kinda offended someone I really care about.
Of course I didn’t do it on purpose, but it happened – and it had the effect that that it did, despite the intent.
She admitted she was somewhat upset about it, but said she was more confused about the whole thing and wanted clarity on why I did it.
Well, we talked about it and I had an opportunity to explain what happened. We squashed the whole thing in about 15 minutes.
The real beauty of the whole thing was that she was able to come to me and ‘talk about it’. She took responsibility for how she was feeling and address them head on. Not in an argumentative and belligerent kinda way… But in a “Hey, you did this thing and I think it stinks…” way.
And I thought it was TOTALLY cool.
I’d have to say it was an absolutely wonderful 15 minutes…minutes that I wouldn’t trade for anything. Yes, they were a little uncomfortable because no one likes to find out that they’d offended someone else, but the fact that we were able to just talk about it was HUGE.
To be able to have that type of conversation and end up closer at the end of it is truly magic.
I don’t care what you say…communication heals all.
If there are some ‘hanging’ conversations you need to have with your boss, your mate, your friend, or even yourself, go ahead and make them happen…
Visualize how you see the conversation going and what result you want to end up with and put the intention out that the conversation be for the greater good of all those involved. I’m sure you’ll be amazed at the results.