I Don't Care What You Say…

You know…

I did something the other day that kinda offended someone I really care about.

Of course I didn’t do it on purpose, but it happened – and it had the effect that that it did, despite the intent.

She admitted she was somewhat upset about it, but said she was more confused about the whole thing and wanted clarity on why I did it.

Well, we talked about it and I had an opportunity to explain what happened. We squashed the whole thing in about 15 minutes.

WOW

The real beauty of the whole thing was that she was able to come to me and ‘talk about it’. She took responsibility for how she was feeling and address them head on. Not in an argumentative and belligerent kinda way… But in a “Hey, you did this thing and I think it stinks…” way.

And I thought it was TOTALLY cool.

I’d have to say it was an absolutely wonderful 15 minutes…minutes that I wouldn’t trade for anything. Yes, they were a little uncomfortable because no one likes to find out that they’d offended someone else, but the fact that we were able to just talk about it was HUGE.

To be able to have that type of conversation and end up closer at the end of it is truly magic.

I don’t care what you say…communication heals all.

If there are some ‘hanging’ conversations you need to have with your boss, your mate, your friend, or even yourself, go ahead and make them happen…

Visualize how you see the conversation going and what result you want to end up with and put the intention out that the conversation be for the greater good of all those involved. I’m sure you’ll be amazed at the results.
Peace

11 thoughts on “I Don't Care What You Say…

  • December 8, 2006 at 10:20 am
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    I’m really curious to know what you did that offended her? But I’m glad to hear you were able to work things out.? I wish my husband and I could communicate like that.? Looks like you have a good friend there.? Is this your girlfriend? 🙂

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  • December 8, 2006 at 2:24 am
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    Yo. Hey, What did you do that offended her? I didn’t think you could offend anyone, huh. Just kidding.? We all run into this kinds of thing at some point.

    Anyways, thats cool man. Its really good to know that no matter how big or small should be settled before a day ends. 🙂

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  • December 8, 2006 at 2:28 am
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    Yes, I appreciate the lady’s attitude.? I like the way that she was straightforward with you without complicating and making things worse. It maybe because you’re “Antonio”. 🙂
    I had a similar experience also but I ran into big trouble. The lady began yelling at me in public and that’s when you can’t have an effective conversation anymore.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:14 pm
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    I was just surfing and looking for some? material on Law Of attraction and then I found your blog.? Pretty good stuff
    For this article, i would say that I salute that women. It takes some courage to communicate that you offended her.? Especially without getting upset about it. ? Well, she seems to be the outspoken type.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:18 pm
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    Thats interesting. I wonder who’s this girl that you really care about and what you did that offended her. Is she a relative? Well if she is then i think it will be normal for you guys to confront with each other. Well if she was not, then that would make me appreciate the girls attitude coz it will take a lil more effort and courage to confront with someone.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:21 pm
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    I’ll have to quote a very striking line here. “Communication heals all”. Well, it is very true and is always true. And it seems applicable in all fields. Tell me Politics, Relationships, Science, Religion and ill tell you thousand ways why this statement is true amongst all.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:29 pm
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    Hi Trisha,
    Thats a very good point. I would also like to thank Antonio for writing that one. It seems very striking to me. It should as well be realized by everyone.

    You have a great argument there that it is universally applicable to all fields. Well my thoughts about this is that it is naturally applicable as we human beings need to communicate and it is the ?most?, if not the only, powerful tool to help us understand each other.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:37 pm
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    Looks like you guys are having some fun here. Great blog man!

    It’s my first time here and i am already feeling its effect on me.

    I admit that i have a hanging conversation (if it is the right term for me) with a relative.? We kinda argued about some land ownership which was about 2 years ago. It’s a shame that we can’t be closer, we cant laugh at things together, drink beer together, talk regularly.

    You know the feeling right? Yes its hard. Yet i might try and follow yur recommendation.
    Thanx Antonio, you are a man of inspiration.

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  • December 10, 2006 at 4:40 pm
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    Hey there Alvin,

    I am trying to put myself in your shoes but it seems i cant take to be in that kind of situation. That would cause me huge Eyebags. LOL. C’mon man, years is something serious. You should have done something with it a long time ago. Nevermind about you making a first move. Just swallow your pride a little man.

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  • December 7, 2006 at 4:47 pm
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    I was referred by a friend to this blog. He told me about how he picked up serious life lessons.

    For this first article I read, I just have to say that its real great. Excellent.

    I think Antonio’s doing a good job in pointing out importnant things that seem to be neglected by each one of us now. Like in this one, it is clearly emphasized that communication is a magical thing that makes us feel lighter and better.

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  • December 11, 2006 at 5:45 pm
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    Great Job Antonio. Its my firs time here in your blog site. I found the articles here nice to read and I can say that this is one of the few blogsites that interests me most.

    Great Job man. Keep inspiring us!.

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