Don't Live Into Your Lies

I was at the Salsa club last night and I saw a young lady with a really nice green dress standing in the corner with her arms folded. As I got closer to her, it appeared to me that she didn’t want to be there.

She wasn’t smiling, or looking like she was enjoying herself…in fact she looked like she was mad.

So I asked her why she wasn’t dancing.

She said, “because no one is going to dance with me.”

I ask her why… and she said, “because I’m just learning and I’m not that good”

I replied, “So, how is anyone supposed to know that you’re new and aren’t that good? It’s not like you have on a neon sign that says Salsa Dancer in Training…”

So she says to me, “Well no one’s asked me to dance, so I must be wearing a sign…”

I asked her if she was open to me sharing an observation with her… I never try to force myself on other people, so I make it a point to ask people if they’re open for coaching… she agreed.

I said, “In my opinion, I don’t think people aren’t asking you to dance because they think you’re bad, I think it’s because they think you’re MAD… You’re an attractive young lady but you look like you would bite someone’s head off.”

She said, “I’m mad because I got all dressed up, drove down here and no one will ask me to dance…

I said, “Maybe no one’s asking you BECAUSE you’re mad.”

She replies, “So what are you, some kind of psychiatrist or something?”

I said, “Not quite, but I do recognize when people aren’t living up to their potential and not getting what they want out of life.”

So this conversation went on for a few more minutes, but she actually started loosening up…she actually laughed a couple of times.

I asked her, “If I could show you one thing that would ‘magically’ get someone to dance with you…would you do it?”

She hesitated for a moment and said yes.

I said to her…

Close your eyes and think about how it would feel to be dancing.

She didn’t want to close her eyes, but she did tell me that it would feel good dancing.

I asked her “How would it feel if you were dancing right now?” she said it would make her happy and she’d feel like she was a part of the crowd.

I asked her, “So, how do you feel right now?”

She said, “Better”

And before she could utter another word, a guy walked up and asked her to dance.

I love it!!!

After she finished dancing, she came back to me and said, “that was a setup…you had him come over here…”

I didn’t know the guy.

The real reason why he came was because her energy shifted from angry to ‘better’.

What’s my point?

She was living into her lie…

No one knew that she was new to dancing…but she had convinced herself that no one was going to dance with her…even before she got to the club. She was so committed to “getting ignored at the club” that she actually “lived into her lie” by looking mad.

So, ultimately, she was able to “get what she wanted” or prove herself “right” by no one dancing with her…

Are there areas of your life that you’re living into a lie?

Yours in Creation,
Antonio

By the way, I danced with her as well and…. yes she WAS new… REALLY new. She stomped my toes a couple of times, but it was worth it 🙂

Afterwards, she danced with 4 other guys before she left.

9 thoughts on “Don't Live Into Your Lies

  • September 27, 2007 at 6:01 pm
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    Real Good work man, sometimes we think that the world is neglecting us and that the problem is with the world not knowing that we are the people who have made ourselves in approachable. Very nice experience of yours that you have described to us.

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  • September 28, 2007 at 11:20 pm
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    Hey man!!!!! Where are the podcasts?

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  • September 30, 2007 at 6:50 pm
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    You’re a doll. What a sweet thing to do for that young lady.
    I’m a big fan of the Secret and try to listen EVERY DAY. It keeps me on track.
    Got here through a Shawn Casey email – Loved your video testimonial!! It was so passionate it convinced me!
    You have a beautiful website – best wishes to your huge success.
    Cindy

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  • October 2, 2007 at 12:41 pm
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    I think that was a really nice thing of you to help her out (and I do get your point about a shift in attitude), but honestly in this day and age she has to WAIT to be asked to dance? Sheesh even in the 70’s back in England we didn’t wait to be asked, we either got up with other friends,danced by ourselves, or go asked a fella. Yes I did it here too (minus the asking the fella since I am happily married), and still do on the rare occasion I go to a dance club. Wouldn’t it be better to help someone see that not only a shift in attitude is effective but if they want to embrace life (like enjoying a bloody good dance in a club)you don’t rely on others but be proactive.

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  • October 2, 2007 at 12:43 pm
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    ps. I met my husband 32 years ago in a disco. I was dancing with my friend and he asked me to dance. He said I looked like I was having fun and wanted to be part of it.

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  • October 4, 2007 at 8:18 am
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    Hey Antonio,

    You’re a really good guy. Thanks for the latest book. You’re right, I’ve gotten WAY too many e-mails from others and finally have a little time to start going through them.
    I’m a disabled person at the moment and built a deck, by myself, from start to finish this summer. Which means that ANYONE can do ANYTHING they put their minds to. All the best. Keep up the great work.

    Sincerest regards,

    Armin R.

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  • October 13, 2007 at 12:50 am
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    your podcasts really help its like your saying exactly what i need to get through the day thanks

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  • October 14, 2007 at 12:46 am
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    Thanks Antonio ~ That was great! I’m delighted to see another example of “manifestation by vibration”! Even just a small shift in conciousness can bring about amazing new experiences!

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  • May 13, 2009 at 12:20 pm
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    Thank you for providing another very good example of the law of attraction at work! This blog post was really good because its a good example for me to follow as I put the law of attraction to work for me!

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