3 Sets Of 12 – Never Compare Yourself To Others

I just left the gym…

As usual, I had a great workout…and without fail, something to provide me entertainment while working out.

The gym I go to is always good for entertainment.

Anyway, as I was working out, a guy walked up who was ridiculously huge. I say “ridiculous” because this guy was ‘cartoon-character’ huge. His arms were larger than my both legs (combined)

Today I happen to be doing cardio weight training which is when you use considerably lighter weights, but do more reps.

So the muscle man’s friend came up..who was almost as big as he was and he wanted to use the machine I was on.

I noticed he was kinda chuckling to himself then I overheard him clowning me to his friend.

Unbeknownst to the two guys, my battery had died on my ipod…so there was no music playing, they assumed I couldn’t hear them.

Initially, this kinda upset me…but what was I going to do? Beat the guy up? 🙂

So, I just left it alone and finished my set.

As I stood up I turned around and the guy was standing right in my face with a ‘belittling’ grin on his face, as to say, “now you can see how it’s supposed to be done.” As he proceeded to stack on the weights.

Oddly, someone else saw this whole exchange and said to me, “Hey, don’t worry about those guys…they’re jerks.”

I didn’t reply at first, but after a few seconds I said to the woman, “I’m not worried about them because I have different goals than they do.” Then I went on to explain the benefits of doing cardio weight training.

As I was talking to the woman, the first guy came over to where we were sitting and handed me my water bottle (I’d left it at the machine I was on). He overheard me talking to the woman and said, “Hey that’s a good idea…I might try that.”

He even went on to ‘apologize’ for his friend. (It wasn’t really an apology, but it was as close as men get to apologizing to other men)

Not that I needed an apology, but it made me feel pretty good.

The woman commented and said that I have a great attitude and that I dealt with the situation very well.

I just think it’s because of the way I choose to look at things.

I workout because it’s fun. I want to stay in shape and keep healthy. I have no intention on becoming some steroid-inhaling monster-man.

If that’s what other people want, that’s cool…but it’s not for me and I’m not going to allow anyone else to make me feel bad about my choices.

It reminded me about a lesson I learned several years ago: Scott, a longtime friend of mine from Miami, and I were hanging out and saw a guy who he knew driving down the street in the new convertible CLK (AMG). This guy was around our age and I remember saying, “Geez, what the heck does this guy do to drive that?!? I need to be driving that”

Admittedly, I was a little jealous (very jealous) and actually started getting upset – not at him, but at myself.

To add insult to injury, just that moment, a gorgeous Latina (I had a really big thing for Latin women) walked by and heard me talking to Scott. She looked at us, chuckled and says, “You wish”

Ouch

By now, I’m boiling. I wasn’t upset about the car or what the girl said, but the fact that I wasn’t doing what I needed to do to afford that type of car.

Scott says to me, “Don’t ever be jealous of what other people have… you never know how they got it.” He went on to tell me that both the guy’s parents were killed in a car accident and he manipulated and stole from his brothers and sisters to get the majority of the money.

Wow

That’s something to think about.

Really put things into perspective.

Practical Application

NEVER, EVER compare yourself to other people. Decide what you want in your own life and choose that path – no one else’s.

Don’t allow other people’s judgment of you dictate your happiness.

8 thoughts on “3 Sets Of 12 – Never Compare Yourself To Others

  • February 20, 2008 at 10:32 am
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    Hi antonio,

    Its a great post as allways. Just to let you know, if you seem to have more listners from Israel latly, it is probably my fault 🙂
    Anyway – i want to share a story. A long time ago, when I was a teenager, I was kind of shy and everything, and I had a friend who was really charismatic. And we hang out together, and he would pick up all this girls, and I was a nice guy, I could dance and I was in shape, but obviously didn’t have half of his success with the women. And I remember thinking “I wish I could be as charismatic as he”. Well as time go by, I did learn how to love my self, and be charismatic in my own way which is very powerful and benefit to other people. But one day we had a talk, and I was talking about situations that I love to have some time for myself, and he said something like “I don’t need time for myself. I never want to be alone”
    Then I understood, that my friend, that was living only with his mother, and didn’t have brothers or sister, just wanted to be with other people. And no matter how nice the out come of this situation was, I know it is not a nice feeling to fear to be alone.

    I wanted to say thank you for putting you podcast in itunes, I listen to every update you put. And thanks for the post on the way you started your working out, it really help me starting after a long period I didn’t work out, and overcoming my starting blockage.

    Regards Shefy

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  • February 28, 2008 at 11:08 pm
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    Nice post and good advice Antonio. We all tend to get wrapped up in externals. It’s interesting that your focus on them is what brought their attention to you.

    Regards,
    Michael

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  • March 1, 2008 at 1:49 am
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    Jealousy is a very low energy human emotion. It’s amazing how some people can just be completely consumed by jealously. Left unchecked it can turn into a true beast of a problem. Great commentary on the subject Antonio.

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  • July 5, 2008 at 10:54 pm
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    Nice post. I do the same kind of workouts. I work out at a trendy gym in LA so the beefy guys are even goofier and beefier there than anywhere else. LOL. Keep up the good work.

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  • September 17, 2009 at 8:05 am
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    superb!

    keep rocking..

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  • April 21, 2010 at 7:37 am
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    Extremely interesting blog post thanks for sharing I have added your blog to my favorites and will be back.

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