Do you manage your beliefs? It’s our beliefs that determine our actions. And our actions determine our results. If you’re not getting the results you desire, your beliefs deserve some examination. Your beliefs are the core of your results. Life and success are both easier and more consistent when your beliefs are supportive.
Adopt these beliefs and your life will change:
- There is a way. If you don’t believe you can succeed at a particular task or goal, you’ll never get started. It just wouldn’t make any sense. You’re much more likely to chase those big goals if you believe there is a path that works for you.
- Everyone is doing the best they can. It’s easy to take things personally when people are cross or let us down. In many instances, you aren’t the issue. The other person could be having a bad day or maybe had a rough childhood.
- This belief doesn’t imply that everyone is operating at the limit of their potential. But given a person’s past experiences, present circumstances, and belief system, they believe they’re doing the best they can at this moment.
- Failure is a learning tool. At some point, it’s necessary to stop learning, thinking, and planning, and pull the trigger. Your results determine your next step. See what happens and adjust your aim. The only way to avoid failure is to never do anything. Failure is part of success.
- I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. There are few limits to what you can do. You could climb Mount Everest, be a movie star, astronaut, or neurosurgeon. You can do one or two of these, but it’s unlikely you could do all of them. Select the most important objectives in your life and let the others go.
- Small improvements are enough. Fast results require big changes, but those big changes can occur over a long period of time. Trying to change too much, too fast, is unlikely to work in the long-term. It’s too uncomfortable. Introduce changes slowly. A small change that’s maintained and built upon has a huge effect over time.
- I don’t need to be the best. Your lawyer, third-grade teacher, doctor, and mechanic are almost certainly not the best in their respective fields. You can achieve a high-level of success without being the best at anything.
- It will all be over someday. Not to be morbid, but no one lives forever. A time will come when you’re gone, and there will be no one left that remembers you. That might sound depressing, but it can be very liberating. None of your mistakes will matter in the end. Enjoy your life and take a few chances.
- Good things often take time. Our society is impatient. We want everything yesterday. Most good things take time to create. If you want something spectacular in your life, be patient. It’s important to work hard, but temper your expectations with regards to the timing of it all. Learn to enjoy the process.
- I already have everything I need to get started. Getting started is perhaps the biggest obstacle in life. For whatever reason, we have 100 excuses why we should put things off. Some of us wait to start diets on the first day of the month. Or we always need to acquire or learn one more thing before the time is right.
- You already have what you need to take the first step today. You can make adjustments and learn a little more tomorrow.
Can you see how these beliefs would enhance your life? A few, simple beliefs can make all the difference. Enjoy your life more and celebrate more success. Consider the impact your beliefs are having on your life.
It could be argued that the only real reason for living is to see how much you can learn about yourself. Asking effective questions can help to facilitate your development as a human being. A good question is one that provides a useful answer. Poor questions create limitations.
Ask yourself these questions to enhance your development:
- What is the most important skill I’m lacking? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Our weaknesses are often responsible for limiting our personal growth and success. There are advantages to being well-rounded.
- You might be great with spreadsheets, but poor at meeting new people. Some of us are very persuasive while others have great creativity.
- What do you feel you’re lacking in your life? Which skill can most help you fill that void?
- How do I get in my own way? Do you ever sabotage your own efforts? It’s possible to fear success. After all, gaining something often means giving up something else. It’s not easy to examine this part of ourselves, but the benefit is immense.
- If I could go back in time, what advice would I give my 18-year old self? Hindsight is 20/20, but the mistakes you’ve made in the past are probably still occurring. Think about the choices you think you should’ve made as an 18-year old. They will provide insight into your current situation.
- What are my greatest strengths? Make a list of your greatest strengths. How can you apply them to your life? Our weaknesses might hold us back, but our strengths can determine how high we can rise. Weaknesses are like a boat anchor while strengths are like the motor.
- Ask your friends and family for their opinions, too.
- What am I able to control in my life? Worrying about things that are outside of your control is a waste of time. Focus on the aspects you’re able to influence. Apply your thoughts, time, and effort accordingly.
- What do I want to stand for? How do you want to be thought of at the end of your life? Are you currently living in a manner that supports that vision?
- Think about who you want to be, which could be quite different than what you want to be.
- If I could accomplish one great thing in my life, what would it be? You probably have several options for your life, and it’s not always easy to choose.
- Think about the one accomplishment that would mean the most to you. Then make a list of realistic steps you can take to achieve it.
- What is the biggest limit I’ve imposed upon myself? It might be the belief that you’re not smart enough to finish college or socially astute enough to attract a wonderful spouse. There’s a 99.999% chance you haven’t worked hard enough to accurately determine what your limits truly are.
- How can you set yourself free from this limit?
- Whom or what do I blame for my challenges? Sure, your parents made a lot of mistakes. Maybe your boss is a jerk.
- Regardless of the source of your challenges, it’s your responsibility to deal with them. This knowledge is actually great news because now you see that you don’t have to rely on someone else in order to move forward!
Questions are a useful tool. The answers can give you greater insight and clarity. If you’re feeling lost or frustrated, utilize the power of questions to continue your self-growth journey.
For as long as any of us can remember, we were told to share with others. Consideration for others was a common theme throughout childhood. Does that mean that being selfish is always wrong? Being selfish on occasion can be the best thing for you and your loved ones. There are several reasons that support the idea that selfishness can be positive.
Getting what you want provides benefits to everyone around you.
Consider the advantages of being selfish:
- You’ll experience more happiness. Studies have shown that being a little selfish ensures you’ll spend more time on activities you enjoy and acquire the things you desire the most. If you’re happier, you’re more productive, altruistic, and resilient.
- Your friends, family, coworkers, and neighbors all benefit when you’re happy! Just ask them.
- You’ll enjoy better health. Taking time to exercise, get enough sleep, and eat properly will result in better health. When you’re healthier, you’re better able to care for those around you. You’re also likely to live longer.
- It’s easier to set boundaries and enjoy healthier relationships. Ensuring that your relationships satisfy your emotional needs might be a little selfish, but it’s also healthy. Others will have a much more difficult time being manipulative or taking advantage of you. The ability to say “no” is important to any relationship.
- Being a little selfish provides the opportunity for self-development. Taking time away from other obligations to spend on your personal growth enables you to become the best possible version of yourself. Development requires time and attention. If you’re never selfish, you won’t find the time to grow.
- Your life will be more meaningful. Selfishness ensures that your life is filled with the people and things that mean the most to you. Creating this type of life requires a consistent focus on oneself. How can you accomplish a big goal in the total absence of selfishness? It’s necessary to withdraw your attention from other things to accomplish something great.
- You’ll be more attractive to others. Think about the least selfish person you know. Do other people respect them? Are they full of energy and have control over their lives? Being too altruistic often results in exhausting your resources and running yourself ragged.
- People are attracted to others that dictate the circumstances in their lives. Confidence and success are attractive. Who doesn’t admire those that look, feel, and perform their best each day? These qualities can’t be created and maintained if your focus is always on the needs of everyone else.
- You’ll be less needy. If you’re not taking care of your own needs, you’re putting yourself in the position of needing more from others. Being dependent on others results in being dependent on the whims of others.
None of this is a complete endorsement of selfishness. Taken too far, selfishness will alienate others and create more challenges than it solves. You probably don’t want to spend time with the most selfish person you know.
Use a little selfishness to increase your enjoyment and improve your ability to be there for the people in your life. By helping yourself, you can help others.
Seek to find the ideal balance between focusing on yourself and focusing on others. Set aside time each day to spend on yourself. The benefits you receive will also benefit the people in your life. Everyone will ultimately be grateful for your selfishness.
Do you ever find it hard to complete tasks because it feels as though your mind is racing and it’s too hard to concentrate on finishing what you set out to do? It’s easy for most of us to become distracted from time to time, but there are several ways to calm your mind so that you can achieve what you’ve set out to do.
Try these strategies to increase your focus and boost your productivity:
- Get an early start. If you have a difficult or tedious task to complete, you might be tempted to put it off. Procrastinating can increase your stress, which makes it harder to focus on completing the task.
- Getting an early start on boring or demanding work lowers your stress and helps you to stay focused.
- Make time for breaks. You might think that you’ll get more done if you just keep your nose to the grindstone. However, if your work is particularly long or physically demanding, you can maintain greater focus by taking frequent breaks.
- Taking breaks before you’re completely exhausted helps you to come back to your task with your energy levels recharged. When your energy levels are high, you’re more able to concentrate fully on the task at hand.
- Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Our minds and bodies are made to work together in harmony. Being in good health reduces stress and makes it easier to concentrate on your work.
- Adopting a healthy diet will give you the nutrients that you need for your mind and body to operate at peak performance. When you’re full of energy boosting nutrients, you’re less likely to feel distracted.
- Walking and other moderately physical activities can help you clear your mind. Walking also increases the blood flow to your brain, which can boost your ability to focus.
- Getting enough sleep each day gives you the energy that you need to stop your thoughts from wandering.
- Drink plenty of water each day. Dehydration can sap your energy and ability to think clearly.
- Practicing mindfulness. Increase your focus by taking the time to be more aware of your surroundings.
- Learn to use all of your senses as you experience the people, places, and objects in your environment. Looking at things with a different perspective boosts your creativity and focus.
- Meditation boosts concentration in several ways.
- Meditation can help you learn progressive relaxation, which helps to reduce the stress and anxiety that make it difficult to concentrate.
- Meditating increases your ability to concentrate. The more you practice on focusing, the easier it gets.
- Take steps to eliminate distractions. It’s easier to stay focused and complete tasks when you are free of distractions.
- Before you begin to work on a task, ensure that you have everything you need and make your workspace as comfortable as possible.
Random thoughts and interruptions don’t have to derail your concentration and prevent you from completing your work. Learning how to eliminate distractions and focus your attention will help you lower your stress and finish tasks.