Who isn’t at least a little superstitious? Athletes have lucky socks. A businessman has a lucky suit. Anyone can increase the amount of luck they experience in life. Of course, you’re not truly creating luck. You’re putting yourself in a better position to create and notice useful opportunities and circumstances. Being luckier is largely a state of mind. Even so, it’s a pleasant experience!
Try these strategies to increase the amount of luck in your life:
- Expect good things to happen. You tend to receive what you expect. Does your brain have a magical ability to influence your environment? Perhaps you’re just better at noticing the things that you think about. Have you ever bought a car and then suddenly noticed the same make and model at an alarming frequency?
- The more you focus on the positive events, the more you’ll notice them. You can only take advantage of the things you notice.
- Follow your gut. Your brain receives a lot of information from your environment, far more than you’re capable of dealing with on a conscious level. Your brain is also amazingly adept at solving problems. The messages your brain is sending might be subtle, but they’re present. That little voice that tells you to turn left instead of right? Listen to it.
- Give yourself more opportunities to be lucky. Be open and alert. Plenty of great opportunities are passing you by each day. Get out in the world and engage fully. Static environments don’t have a lot of luck to offer. You’ll never be lucky while sitting on your couch.
- Be mindful and present in the moment. If you’re busy daydreaming, worrying about the future, or regretting the past, you’ll probably miss out on lots of opportunities to be lucky. This might be the most effective tip for putting yourself in a position to notice all that life has to offer.
- Minimize the stress in your life. Either get a handle on the people and things that are creating stress in your life or enhance your ability to deal with them successfully. If you’re stressed, you can’t see the luckiness around you.
- Choose to be lucky and measure your success. Decide that you’re going to find 25 quarters over the next month. Remind yourself several times each day and visualize yourself finding quarters. Keep track of how many you find. You’ll be surprised by how many your find and where you find them. Try it!
- Get busy. The harder you work, the luckier you’ll be. If you spend 10 hours each day digging for gold nuggets, you’ll find a lot more than if you’re only digging for 2 hours. The luckiest people are often those that put in the most time.
- Your ability to be lucky grows with your knowledge. The more you know, the better you can make use of the items and people that cross your path.
- Be generous. When you do things for others, you’ll find your life fills with more opportunities. Be generous with your time and wealth.
- Deal with bad luck effectively. A little bad luck can derail the positive attitude that’s so important to receiving good luck. Sometimes things don’t turn out the way you’d like. Rather than dwelling on it: learn from it, make the best of it, and move on.
If you want to experience more luck in your life, give yourself more chances to be lucky. Keep your mind in the present but look forward to a bright future. Expect good things to happen and you’ll happily enjoy more of the luck you seek.
A lucky few of us are charismatic and comfortable in all social situations. However, most people suffer from some degree of self-consciousness at times and alter their behavior in an effort to appeal to others. This begins in childhood and becomes a habit we carry throughout our lives. The pressure to conform resides in most of us.
How much are you pretending? How much of yourself are you giving up in order to gain approval from others? Interestingly, the people we admire the most are those that make no effort to conform. We admire individuality.
These tips will help you learn to be yourself:
- Pay attention to others. It’s much harder to feel self-conscious if your attention isn’t on yourself. The key to being self-conscious is to focus on your appearance, clothes, posture, and words. Eliminate this self-scanning behavior and you’ll feel much more comfortable.
- Notice your environment. If someone is speaking to you, focus on their face and words. Your ability to focus outside yourself will grow with practice.
- Enhance your self-esteem. Pretending to be something you’re not suggests that you believe you’re not good enough in some way. However, you’ve done some amazing things in your life. Focus on your positive qualities. Remind yourself of your successes. Most importantly, leave your failures and regrets in the past.
- Be accepting of yourself. Remind yourself that no one is perfect. Even your best friend has numerous flaws that you could quickly list. You still love them anyway.
- Monitor your level of anxiety. There are many tools to lower anxiety, but it’s most effective to use them when your feelings of anxiousness begin to rise. When you’re highly stressed, it’s much more challenging to get your emotions back under control.
- When you first notice yourself becoming uncomfortable, focus on taking slow, deep breaths. Redirect your focus to your breath and your environment. Your previous thoughts resulted in your anxiety, so change them.
- Determine your purpose in life and live it. It could be argued that you’re not bold enough to be yourself because the stakes aren’t high enough, yet. When you have enough motivation, anxiety rarely shows up. You might be too bashful to raise money for your new business, but it’s no problem if you’re raising money to save your child from cancer.
- Do you know your purpose in life? When you can answer that question definitively, much of the social pressure in your life will disappear.
- Imagine your parents are gone. Even people in their 50’s and 60’s are still worried about disappointing their parents. What would you do differently right now if your parents were gone? A parent’s influence is never gone completely, but most of us give them more power than is reasonable. As adults, parents only have the power we give to them.
- Do one thing you’ve been avoiding. It can be something small, but jump in the deep end and do something new. It might be getting a tattoo or singing Karaoke. Maybe you’ve always wanted to take ballet lessons.
- Realize that your time is limited. It will all be over someday, so there’s little reason to worry. Anything you’re worried about now will be meaningless in the distant future. Have fun and enjoy your life.
The people that you admire the most have many detractors. Break free of the social pressure to conform. Share your thoughts and ideas. Enjoy your life. Discover how you can be your own person and still be loved!