Get An Easy Win

If you know anything about me, you know that I play the X-Box and play station quite often. The game of the month for me currently is NBA Live ’08. Yes, I recognize how ironic it is that I play all of these sports games but don’t actually like sports themselves. Maybe it’s some subconscious fantasy of mine to be a sports player.

Who knows, and who cares?

Well anyway, one of the things I usually do when starting off a new game is I put the odds in favor of me winning. One of the challenges to playing a new game, particularly a sports game that’s fast moving and has a lot of dynamics to it is that you have to not only learn the usage of the controller, meaning which button does which things.

Like for NBA Live, making a jump shot is B, but doing a slam dunk is X. And A is pass. Now, this can become challenging when you become use to playing something like Madden, where A is for running and X is for passing. Obviously that can become quite confusing. But in addition to having to learn the dynamics of the controller, you also have to learn how to play the game. Things to do, things not to do, how long to hold down a button in order to get a certain jump shot from a certain distance and so on.

So as you can imagine, there’s a huge learning curve when you initially begin to play a game. Well, one of the things that I do to maintain a level of excitement and enjoyment out of the game is that I will usually start out with the absolute best team and I will play against the absolute worst team. And sometimes I may end up losing, but the majority of the time I end up winning.

And the reason why I end up winning is because the team stinks so badly and the players on my team are so good. So even by bumbling around, I’ll still end up winning the game, which actually makes me feel great.

I do this for a couple of reasons.

One, if I tried to start this game off playing against the computer on an even keel, I would lose, And most likely I would lose every single time. Having a series of losses can actually lead to a level of frustration that almost makes you want to give up and just not play the game anymore. So, I put the odds in my favor so that I can win.

Now, you may be thinking “Well, if you’ve got the best team and you’re playing against the worst team, you don’t really have an opportunity of learning; you don’t have an opportunity of getting better.” Well, what I usually do is over time I start evening out the playing field, and as I start getting more familiar with the controllers, as I start getting more familiar with the game play, I play against better and better teams.

And this has created not only a level of true fun and excitement from playing the game, but it also creates longevity in me playing the game. Because I’m winning. And the winning makes me feel better about myself. Then feeling better as you know, I attract more feeling better. It’s a really neat concept.

So, why am I even telling you this about my X-box escapades and how does this benefit you and your life? Well, as I’ mentioned before, getting easy wins is ax great way to put yourself in a very positive feeling space. When you are wanting to tackle a large project, don’t just look at the project as a whole.

Try to break your project down into smaller chunks, and make those smaller chunks as easy to do as humanly possible. Do those things, and keep easy wins to make you feel better. Because once you start feeling better, it inspires you and it motivates you to continue on. And in your continuing on, you keep getting these small wins.

Next thing you know, you’ve made this huge win, because you’ve taken a very difficult and challenging project and you’ve created it in a fashion where you can get quickly and easily some wins under your belt to make you feel good.

So, think about the things you’re working on right now, and in your life, whether it be from a business perspective, a personal perspective, – maybe you want to stop smoking. Maybe try to not smoke for a four hour period, or a three hour period, or even a one hour period if you’re a chain smoker or something.

You know, if you’re trying to attract a mate, instead of trying to get married tomorrow, maybe what you can do is just go to one internet site and set up a new account, and just get a small win. Or maybe you can just go out to a Jazz event and enjoy that.

Maybe you can just say “Hi,” to someone, not even try to start a conversation with them. If your thing is being shy, maybe just saying HI to them and walk off. You don’t have to sit there and have a full out conversation. If your shyness prevents you from approaching people, just saying “Hi,” to someone will give you a small win.

Practical Application
Make your life easy.

Make things as easy as possible for yourself in order to get wins. There are no rewards, there are no badges of honor or gold stars you’re going to get for working the hardest or making your life the most difficult.

That just does not exist. It really doesn’t.

So, don’t make your life more difficult than it has to be. Make things easy. Get quick and easy wins in order to propel yourself and motivate yourself and create momentum for getting even bigger wins.

No Really…Be Happy!

I remember reading this about a year ago…

This recent study confirms the results of a landmark 2004 paper in which Cohen and his colleagues found that people who are happy, lively, calm or exhibit other positive emotions are less likely to become ill when they are exposed to a cold virus than those who report few of these emotions.

In that study, Cohen found that when they do come down with a cold, happy people report fewer symptoms than would be expected from objective measures of their illness. In contrast, reporting more negative emotions such as depression, anxiety and anger was not associated with catching colds.

That study, however, left open the possibility that the greater resistance to infectious illness among happier people may not have been due to happiness, but rather to other characteristics that are often associated with reporting positive emotions such as optimism, extraversion, feelings of purpose in life and self-esteem.

Cohen’s recent study controls for those variables, with the same result: The people who report positive emotions are less likely to catch colds and also less likely to report symptoms when they do get sick. This held true regardless of their levels of optimism, extraversion, purpose and self-esteem, and of their age, race, gender, education, body mass or pre-study immunity to the virus.

“We need to take more seriously the possibility that positive emotional style is a major player in disease risk,” said Cohen, the Robert E. Doherty Professor of Psychology at Carnegie Mellon.

Talk about sick with worry 🙂

Not only do negative emotions keep you from getting the things you want, they also make you sick – literally

Practical Application

Don’t Worry…Be Happy. No really, I mean it…be happy 😀

Yours in Creation,

Antonio

1 Call, 4 Lessons – The Art Of Allowing

As you know, when people say “Let’s stay in touch…” that very rarely happens.

There’s a really good friend of mine that I’ve know for a while now and she and I were talking about how much we enjoy talking to each other. As we were finishing our conversation a few weeks ago, we said “we need to stay in touch…”

But the interesting things is that she said, “We should talk at least every two weeks.”

That was different….but I think it’s the answer to why we don’t ‘stay in touch’ when we say we will… we don’t create finite plans to do so. We just ‘leave it out there’ (mainly for the other person) to just randomly happen..

Lesson 1: Make finite plans to do things… instead of just leaving things up for grabs. They’re 1000 times more likely to actually happen

Anyway, here’s the cool thing I wanted to share…

She called me a few days ago (as we agreed), but I was unable to answer the phone and she left a message. “Hi Antonio, I’m calling to see how you are doing and to touch bases with you as we agreed to do every two weeks…”

I meant to call her right back…but admittedly, I didn’t (I was “busy”)

So yesterday, I was laying in the bed and she popped into my head… I was a little ashamed that I hadn’t called her back in 5 days…

So I immediately jumped out of the bed and called her.

Just at that very moment she was on the way to a seminar of a well known speaker that I just so happened to be talking about the day before.

Here are my exact words: Man I really with this guy would come to Atlanta because I want to see how he does his presentations… (I’m starting a new seminar business and I wanted to get some ‘advice’ from one of the greats.)

Perfect Synchronicity!

I was feeling ‘stuck’ and was a little down about the progress (or lack there of) of this new venture of mine…and decided to CHOOSE to feel better about my situation.

The next day, I get an answer to my ‘prayer’.

Amazing.

Lesson 2: Be clear on what you want and intend it. You have to ‘ask’ for what you want to receive it. Imagine going to a restaurant and not giving the waiter your order…you wouldn’t eat.

Let’s look at all the so-called coincidences that created this situation:

1) I put out the intention that I wanted to meet this guy because of this new venture I’ve started.

2) My friend just so happened to be going to an event he was holding. Not only was the even in Atlanta, is was at the convention center that is 3 1/2 minutes from my house.

3) I totally forgot to call me friend back last week. I say that because if I would have called her last week, she wouldn’t have told me about the seminar because she didn’t find out about it until a couple of days before

4) I get inspired to call her “out of the blue” 5 days after she calls me… and she is on the way to the seminar.

5) If I would have called her 30-minutes prior to when I did, I wouldn’t have gotten her because she would have still been at work and her cellphone doesn’t work in her building

6) If I would have called her 30-minutes after when I did, she would have been in the seminar and had her phone would have been off.

Talk about Devine Intervention.

I totally don’t believe in coincidences…particularly when they happen like this.

Here’s the totally cool thing about this:

This is an area of my life that I’ve been asking for growth and expansion. Things got a little challenging for a while, but I chose to stay with it and push through the discomfort. As a result,

Lesson 3: Just allow. Be open to what ever shows up. 99.99999% of the time, things will NOT come in the way you think they will.

By the way, a good friend of mine has a great blog on allowing – www.justallowit.com

Lesson 4: Listen & Act. When you ask for things, listen for the subtle voice of the Universe answering you. Just as importantly, when you get an ‘answer’ act on it. I didn’t really ‘want’ to get out of bed to call my friend and I definitely didn’t ‘want’ to put on clothes to rush to a seminar. Yet, at the same time, I felt compelled to go .

Deliberate Or Default?

When deciding how you are going to live your life you get two choices – taking a proactive role in the process or a reactive one, just letting things happen to you.

Do you want life to be an upward struggle? Or would you prefer to enjoy it and know that every day is a day that you have decided to move yourself in a positive direction. This is the difference between living deliberately or living by default.

Whether you realize it or not, every day you make decisions that effect how the day will go, and ultimately how you will experience life.

If you wake up every morning, look in the mirror, and decide you are going to have a positive day, you are preparing the day’s path to be a good one. In addition, if you decide you are going to have a prosperous day and see personal successes, you will have those experiences as well.

Now, this does not mean that someone who experiences negative things during the day wakes up, looks in the mirror, and thinks, “Hey I want to have a bad day.” or “Hey, I think I would like to get into an accident on my way to work.” But by not offering any guidance for the day ahead, you are actually opening the door for anything to happen.

It’s kind of like leaving the front door to your home open all day. While you may not be putting a sign up inviting bugs, pests, or even criminals into your home, you are also not sending a clear message that you want them to stay away. You’re just kind of sitting there waiting to see what happens and then dealing with those consequences.

Instead, you should keep the door shut, and let it be known that only friends are welcome there. That way, each time someone comes through the door it is someone you have invited to come in, and who you know is welcome in your home.

Essentially, through the process of choosing to live deliberately or by default you are deciding to experience life the way you want to experience it instead of letting life tell you how you are going to live by throwing random events at you.

While many people are stuck in a belief that they are forced to deal with what life sends their way, the reality is that once you realize that you have complete freedom over your life, and running your life, you will see positive changes.

Your life is your canvas and you are the painter. You choose the color and vibrancy that is in that painting and you can create the happiness you seek with your thoughts.

The crux of this process is understanding that you have personal power. You do not have to rely on the world to make a decision on how you can live your life, but instead you can use your own personal power over your life and fill each day with joy.